The way a system is set up may lead a human to prioritize 📈 outcomes or 💍 expectations. This can crowd out 🌳 the awareness of personal values in her decision making. When a human makes a choice that doesn't align with her personal values, she might end up with mixed feelings, even if the decision was a good response to the strategic considerations and social expectations that dominated the situation. On the other hand, if a human chooses according to her values, she might end up feeling like her time was well spent, even if things don't turn out exactly as she had hoped.
But what makes the difference in her choices? Why do desired outcomes and expectations sometimes crowd out a human's awareness of personal values?
Yeah. Yeah. Okay. There's an interesting, um, this is, feels like a tangent for now, but like, um, the feels like the there's a conception that feels like, that feels like a conception of norms. That's, I'm assuming kind of an equal power thing, like solving coordination problems, but. I'm imagining a very different conception of norms when there's like real power dynamics involved where like the norms, maybe you could still say they're solving coronation ponds, but it feels much more like norms, uh, can be used to like favor some people over others or like they feel, you know what I mean?
Yeah. Um, okay. Maybe we should move one of your other yeah. Yeah. That feels, um, that feels good. Yeah. Um, yeah, sure.
If it's more of this kind of like environment where you don't already know you, haven't already ascertained that this is a good place for you to do X Y. Like I, but like
you could imagine, imagine like a, a psychopath genius or something who like steps into a new environment and like sees all the same things. Other people say they see the norms, they see the rules, the expectations, the punishment, all of that. And they like, but are constantly ed, but all options are still open to them.
They feel. Like they, um, you know, and I, yeah, I know. I don't think this is just like a psychopath thing. I think like, this is so much of what power is about. Like when a really powerful person comes in the room, part of how, you know it is that you see them, like they can choose exactly when to break a norm.
And like a really optimal moment for them, because they've always seen it as an option in a way that like less powerful people or people who feel more actually constrained don't even see that as possible. Yeah. Yeah. And is really good at this. Did you meet Ann yet? No, I haven't. She's amazing. She's like design thinking, workshops and other kinds of consulting things for like CEO and like executive teams, really big German company, like a small woman, small, cute woman.
She just has a way of kind of laughing at someone like, like, uh, like someone very important will say something, but she's like, Yeah. Like she doesn't say that, but she sort of implies it, you know, in a way that just like totally changed dynamics of the room and what's possible. What are the, you know? Yeah.
I mean, I think, um, I think people, uh, when you do that, you're changing the game, but you're not, there's not ever no game. Um, uh, uh, and, and an agent never has all the information, uh, like, uh, they would need to do whatever they want to do. Um, and yeah, you, you can make social moves, but they don't actually accomplish anything unless the other people like do their part, like.
You know. Yeah. If I decide, let's say I'm a psychopath guy. Right. And I just, I want to marry you at, and I say
it doesn't work. Right. It just totally doesn't work because we're not playing the right game. Right. Yeah. All right.
Yeah. I that makes sense. I guess it just feels like a very different,
it's a different way. I mean, right. You talk about this in the first chapter of, of the second part, right? Like that, it's a really different way that the game impacts people. That the, that the social environment and the social system impacts people. If it's like constraining them, like making what's possible or impossible for them versus just changing their incentives.
yeah. I just feel confused about that and how that relates to like, like, it feels like I want a theory of. When,
when why and how? Yeah. Like social systems make hard constraint, like the hardness of their constraints. Cause it's also a spectrum there, right? Like it's not just that impossible, possible impossible versus pure incentives. There's like a physical full spectrum. There just feels like a really crucial characteristic of.