Pick two values you articulated in quest 1, and list where you find it easiest, and most difficult, to live by them. Is one reasons it's easier sometimes, because of the kind of relationships you have in that setting?
Along what dimensions or axes do your relationships differ?
When you're making a ritual or organizational process or a social network or whatever—what powers do you have to shape the kinds of relationships your participants find themselves in?
Can you make a list of those powers?
Going back to the two values you started with—could you modify one of the environments where things are harder, to change the kinds of relationships available? How would you do that? What kinds of changes would you make?