The group sits in a circle and brings up various "hell realms": social experiences which were meaningless, performative, empty, or otherwise not a good time. (If you need ideas, think about bad dates, bad family dinners, bad work meetings, etc.)
The person who presents the hell realm (the "presenter") should be able to say, roughly, what values of theirs were suppressed.
Then...
Step 1. Gather Details
Dependency. Do participants need one another, to accomplish something together?
independent
dependent
interdependent
Depth. Do people know each other well?
strangers
friends
anonymous
acquaintances
Matchmaking. What information is available for deciding who to connect with?
shallow markings
deep context
human intros
algorithms
Presence. Do participants have the sense of one another's presence, in the same "place" at the same time? For how long?
async
fleeting
durational
Shape. Does the whole group listen to everything said, or do people talk in pairs, or does information flow through a network structure?
whole group
pairs
subgroups
network
Step 2. Suggest "Salvages"
The other players try to come up with ways to change the design parameters (above) that would have made the situation better.
The idea is to suggest a minimal change in the setup of the story, a change that's small, hopefully feasible or almost feasible, and that takes the presenter out of the hell realm and allows them to live by their value.
Think of changes to the below, that'd have made a difference in whether the presenter could live by their value.
Dependency. Do participants need one another, to accomplish something together?
independent
dependent
interdependent
Depth. Do people know each other well?
strangers
friends
anonymous
acquaintances
Matchmaking. What information is available for deciding who to connect with?
shallow markings
deep context
human intros
algorithms
Presence. Do participants have the sense of one another's presence, in the same "place" at the same time? For how long?
async
fleeting
durational
Shape. Does the whole group listen to everything said, or do people talk in pairs, or does information flow through a network structure?
whole group
pairs
subgroups
network
Step 3. Reflection
If you succeed, do some reflecting: why do you think the presenter needed this kind of relationship to live by their value?
Check your theory with them.
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