FINAL GRADRIT BITCHES

Welcome, from the archmages of Human Systems. Before we start, please locate

- A sword and a source of fire. (If you are stuck, a chef's knife and a candle will do, but ideally a big flaming torch and a sword.)

- A new value you discovered in class you want to share (maybe because it's beautiful or because it's hard to live by)

- An insight into what you approach differently now or something you game up with (game, redesign..)

Danilo - Nathan

Appreciation: slow flow when talking

🌳 relaxed - enjoy the passing of time, allow yourself space to feel into what you have to say and to absorb what others contribute

Buster - Anne

Appreciation: the way you spoke of your challenging emotion story in the SF class.

🌳 sober tenderness - Hold myself with care and tenderness as I soberly face reality and share what is raw and unresolved.

Sanna - Joe

—> A new value I discovered in class I want to share, and why? (Maybe because it's beautiful, because it was surprising or it's an edge value)

—> something I approach differently now or something I came up with (game, redesign..)

—> What are you most looking forward to doing with your new skills

We don't share our values

For a moment now, we'll see into the futures. Some of them, we don't have endless time. Two. Two is good today. When we look into the future, we do so to discover where we stand right now and orient our next steps—those in the coming 20 minutes, the next three days, two dozens days ahead of us.

Are you ready? Ok. Close your eyes. Find your feet. Track the top of the head. Everything in place? Let's begin.

Here is path one. It comes into being only minutes from where we left off — you feel queasy about some of the stuff you learnt. inept. unskilled. it feels kinda mucky. you move on to stuff you are good at. it feels good to feel capable. the days pass by and whirl up problems, as they've always done. some of the concepts knock on your mind, wanting to help you out. Emotions to values. Hard Steps. Structural features. Norms, goals, ideological commitments. But you have ways of doing things that have worked for a long time, and they work again, more or less. This path is so similar to that other one, where you never took part in human systems. Hm.

The time carpet is tensing and condensing. We should move on.

Here is the other path, the second one. This smells like the very near future, this moment where you find words for what you don't get. you find sentences for your doubts and scepticism. you reach out. who do you reach out to? what do you ask? they take the time to listen. some of the stuff you bring up they see as well and have no answer to. you speak again, two weeks later. still no answers, but the conversations are good.

one of the people in this call reaches out, asks if you want to practice. or is it you who reaches out? who do you want to practice with? what do you want to ask them to practice with you? can you imagine the sentence you might say? can you taste what it feels like to speak? they say yes. a small drop of relief in your shoulders. you practice and while it is still hard in the beginning, it is also fun. it feels good to connect with this human on the other side of this screen while you stay at home.

years later, you meet them in person. you think back to the conversations, to that one snippet you shared and felt shy about, raw and a bit uncomfortable. they tell you then that it changed their life — one thing they struggled with became easier, just a tiny bit, and they haven't forgotten that.

you fight with your partner. or your mom. anger is what you feel. twenty minutes later, on your walk, you find the picture on your phone with the feeling words and questions to ask yourself. you have a hunch about the value that you care about and when you are back from your walk, you find words for it. they understand something about you they couldn't see before. the weekend turns out connected and kinda sweet. you'll fight again, later, and then you won't know what to do. but sometimes, some fights, you come in contact with yourself and help them come in contact with what you value. you feel elated.

here is another moment — there is a project you are working on. in one meeting you manage to resolve a quarrel between two colleagues. their goals conflict, their values don't. you feel proud that you manage to point your finger at that.

when you talk with one of the people at the event you are hosting, you discover something they care about you never thought about. you adjust how you welcome guests to your events. they notice and thank you three weeks later.

Take a step back, out of that future.

Take a breath. Make a step forward, into that other future where you stick to what you knew before this course. What goes missing in that one? What will you not explore, not discover, not experience? What are you passing by, in your relationships, your work, your self-discovery? What relationships that spawned here whither? What changes that could have been will not be?

Take a moment to sit with that. Map it out. Let it sink in.

20'' break

Trace back: what will be hard about using any of this? Where will you get stuck? What holds you back? What shoulds keep you from naming and exploring the coulds on the way? And who can help? And how will you ask them for help?

20'' break

Take a step back. Take a breath. Feel your skin, the chair, the temperature of the room you are in. Where are you right now? Look around the room you are in. There is a screen. There is people in the screen. They are waving at you.